Lessons from 2015: Friendship

Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul”- 1 Samuel 18:3

One of the greatest lessons of this year for me was the need to cultivate good friendships. While I can say I love people, I had always been indifferent as to whether people stayed or left. This year though, I’ve learned the power that comes with good vibes and positive energy. If I have a good feeling being around someone or some people or I just feel that the energy in a place is good, I stay there. My friends have been my cheerleaders, support system, critics, sisters (and brothers) and God’s gift to me.

I also met a couple of beautiful people this year and I tried my best to stay in touch, but then again, some people are drifters. I remember praying that I’d have really good friends and meet people with love in their hearts and souls. God answered. I think it’s safe to say that I have friends for a lifetime, God willing.



David went out to meet them and said to them, “If you have come to me in friendship to help me, my heart will be joined to you; but if to betray me to my adversaries, although there is no wrong in my hands, then may the God of our fathers see you and rebuke you”- 1 Chronicles 12:17


This part right here. I like to think that I’m not such a difficult person to deal with. However, I’ve come to the realization that people can switch on you any moment. You don’t even have to do anything to deserve this treatment. In the same way, people will see you and just hate everything about you- your hair, the way you chew, the way you laugh, even the fact that you exist.

What I learned this year was that as long as I kept my conscience clear before God and didn’t harbor any ill-feelings towards anyone, irrespective of what they did, God always looked (looks) out for me. For every time that the enemy tried to bring me down, God fought for me and reimbursed me. God is constantly cleaning up after me, and so no one can judge me, seeing as He has already judged me worthy of love. I can’t even begin to explain here, but those who were around me this year understand what I choose not to say. I can’t say I live a charmed life, since the life I live is better than that.



You will seek Me and you will find Me, when you seek Me with all your heartJeremiah 29:13


At some point during the year, I was really at the end of my rope- financially, spiritually, physically and mentally. My body was shutting down, I was broke, I was lost and I was depressed and losing my mind. I would spend all my nights fighting to get my mind to be still so I could sleep. And then I’d get up in the morning and have to go to work. At some point I took a couple of days off and really sought God’s face. What I have learned is that God takes away everything that stands in the way of His relationship with you. God wants your eyes to be on Him alone, so He will remove everything distracting you. In the end, when you walk with God, it is a really beautiful experience. You can’t know someone if you’re not friends with them. God shows you different sides to Him – friend, deliverer, savior, father, advocate, provider, confidante and protector.

There’s no better friendship than His friendship.