Chin Up, You’ve Got This
“No one is coming to rescue you”
Those were the words I heard as I was about to start wallowing in self-pity last week. My children had been crying and screaming in unison for about five minutes just before their bedtime and I had just about had it. I had fired my Nanny the previous day, the fourth one this year (Don’t worry, I’m working on a Nanny Chronicles Podcast/ Vlog Series) and after a busy day at work, I had gotten to my limits. I couldn’t decide if I wanted to join in the fray or leave them to cry it out. Then I remembered I was the adult and no one was coming to save me from the life I (mostly) chose.
Here’s the thing: Once you grow up, you can’t go back. You now have to make decisions, be responsible for yourself (and more people, if you’re a parent), and be a decent person at the very minimum. Isn’t that what Adulting is about? What no one tells you is that you’re also responsible for the consequences of your actions and decisions. If you screw up, you have to fix it.
In the last few days, I’ve had to live with a lot of consequences of my actions. Even though I’m often on the border between “I can do this” and overwhelm, I’m learning that no one is coming to save me from the life that I chose. These are some of the things I’ve learned in the last quarter:
- You can do everything right and still not have the outcome you desire. Rest easy, knowing that you did your best.
- No one owes you anything, but it’s okay to ask for help when you’re overwhelmed. I was lucky to have my mum and a few friends on standby in my own case. I also have an army of women who let me vent, cry and then push me on the next day.
- It’s just a bad day, (or a series of bad days if we’re being honest). It WILL pass.
- No matter how many times you fail, you can always start again
- Finally, chin up. You’ve got this!
I hope this week, month, quarter and half of the year are kinder to you than the previous. I pray that on days when life beats you down, you find the grit to pick yourself up and push through. I hope it keeps getting better for you in every way.